It can be hard to have fun in a long distance relationship. In my eBook Long Distance Love: A Survival Guide for Long Distance Relationships, there is a list of activities for long distance relationships, whether you have access to a cell phone, or snail mail. There is a full list of 60 fun things to try, a list of conversation questions, and long distance relationship ideas and advice in my eBook.
1.Have a duct tape contest romantic things to do for your husband
At one point, duct tape was a fad. An episode based on surviving on an island with a lot of duct tape was created. It is fun to work with duct tape because it is simple and versatile and you can challenge your partner to make the best duct tape wallet, bag, costume, hammock. All you need is a bunch of duct tape and you can find a lot of different colors and patterns.
2.Play the Newlywed Game
This was an American TV game show where couples had to answer questions about one another and compare their answers against each other. It was a competition between couples, but you can compete with your partner. You can play my version of the game on my website.
3.Ask thought-provoking questions
Good questions can lead to heated discussions. You don’t need to buy the cards to have a good time in the table topics game. You can choose from online questions or the Conversation Topics section in my eBook.
4.Have an origami competition
A piece of paper is cut into a square and a phone is used to compare products. We decided to make paper cranes. The same set of directions was followed online and we took our time to make the better crane. I won since my boyfriend’s crane looked like a pile of mush.
5.Play 21 questions
This is a game that can be played anywhere. One person chooses a person, character, or object and the other tries to guess what it is by asking yes or no questions until he gets the answer. The guesser is only allowed to ask 21 questions, but my boyfriend and I just play for fun.
This requires aWebcam. One of you has to choose a movie and act out its title silently so that the other player can guess what it is. If you are bored and don’t have a plan, Charades is a good back-up game.
7.Play Battleship & grid games
One of the few games that you can play together with the physical game is battleship. You need to mail half of the components to your boyfriend so that he can have a copy of the board, colored pegs and ships. You can play over the phone or on the computer. You can use a piece of graph paper and a pencil. If you label the x and y axes, it will be easy to play the game over the phone. Chess, checkers, Connect Four, Quoridor, and Stratego are some of the games that can be translated to graph paper.
8.Take personality quizzes together
There are personality tests for every topic. Pick a few quizzes that interest you and compare results with your partner. Playbuzz.com is a good place to start. It can be fun to create a quiz with your partner and then share it with others.
9.Blind drawing challenge
The challenge is to see how well you communicate. Search online for geometric shapes and patterns. You can search for shapes. There is an image of two slanted rectangles with an arrow shape inside of a circle. One minute is given to the partner who finds the image to give instructions to the other. The partner can’t ask for clarification. You can see how well you did after the minute is up.
10.Have list competitions
The website sporcle.com is a great place to have fun with friends. The goal of the many list-quizzes on the site is to list as many items as possible within the time limit. If you use a timer, you can do this as a pen-and-paper activity.
11.Do a snail-mail art project
Send the materials back and forth to complete the project. One person could draw a doodle on an item and mail it off, the other person could color in the doodle and draw a new one. Go on. You can either purchase a deck of blank playing cards or mail two cards at a time until the whole deck is covered in original doodles, or you can use a white handkerchief or pillow case. You will have a functional piece of artwork when you are done.
12.Play storytelling games
The ancient art of story telling. It doesn’t feel right to sit down and tell each other stories, but it’s a lot of fun. The popular card game Once Upon A Time requires you to come up with a story, but gives you boundaries and inspiration in the form ofKeywords based on a theme. You can purchase a copy of the game for each of you and play it on the computer.
13.Play board games online
If you want to play board games, you’ll probably need another book. Hive, Coloretto, Saboteur, Jaipur, Seasons, and many more are free to play at En.boardgamearena.com. I use this site a lot. You can find a list of free online versions of board games. You have to pay for a subscription to play the games at Days of Wonder. If you don’t play a lot of board games, Ticket to Ride is a good game to start with.
14.Play MMO games
It can be hard to know where to start if you don’t know any of the other Massive Online games. The world-building and exploring game is an excellent choice for people who aren’t game players. You and your partner can build a world on your private server. Second Life is a world where you can hang out with others, but it lags and doesn’t work well. I have enjoyed playing Dofus with my boyfriend. You can play the game on your computer. It is possible to find what is right for you with some research.
15.Play (or make) text-based decision games
The cool retro-style story games that read like a book and allow you to make decisions after each scene are still being made by companies like Choice of Games. You can play a game with your partner and make decisions together. Make them together. You can use the site’s own programming language to make and sell your own games if one of you is code-literate.
16.Watch movies simultaneously
This is the most popular long distance relationship activity as it is easy to set up and mimics the traditional in-person movie date. You can communicate during the movie if you have snacks and a computer. My boyfriend and I like to watch documentaries together and we always learn something new. The Room and Titanic II are two of the worst movies of the year. There is nothing quite like bonding and laughing together. You can find a lot of old shows on the internet, and a cartoon from your childhood that you haven’t seen in a long time. If you look hard enough, you can find almost everything you need.
17.Play print-and-play games
As a graphic designer, board game enthusiast, and someone in a long distance relationship, I felt that there really needed to be some more easily accessible and free board games that could be played without a dependency on the internet. Online games are great, but they don’t work in relationships that rely on phone calls or snail mail I recreated some games so that they would work well for long distance relationships because of the charm of physical games. I uploaded the games to my site. You and your partner will need to learn the rules to play.
18.Have drawing competitions
A private place to draw together can be found on CoSketch.com. During theMorning Drawfee, two artists take turns bringing to life the ridiculous suggestions sent in by their viewers They draw things that have been rejected. You can get your artwork printed as a hysterical photo book if you keep it on your computer. You could draw your picture on a piece of paper and show it off via the internet. It can be difficult to draw on the computer with a pen.
19.Have a miracle berry date
This is something that is fun in person, but also unique and will make a good date. A miracle berry is a fruit that changes how your taste buds react to sour foods and drinks and makes nearly everything taste sweet. It will taste like lemonade. The effects wear off in an hour or two, but you and your partner can have a great time eating and drinking over the internet. If you have a spread of the same foods in front of you, there will be shouts of “oh my gosh, you have to try this!” back and forth. This activity is calledflavor tripping
20.Read bedtime stories
If you and your partner usually have a phone call at night, consider taking an extra ten to fifteen minutes each night to read aloud. Bedtime stories can teach you new things and give you a sense of accomplishment. This could be a great opportunity for you to finally read that novel that has been sitting on your shelf for two years. You can pick up where you left off the night before by reading a chapter over the phone. You could purchase two copies of the same book and take turns reading to one another each night if you wanted to, but you also could share a digital version of the same book. You could download the audio version of the book and listen to it at the same time.
21.Have Skype drinking dates
You can play some of your favorite drinking games on the computer, or you can take turns trying new drinks. If you want to try out the same drink recipes, sip on new brands of wine and cheese or tea and cookies and see if you like them. This type of activity works well if you do it weekly or monthly.
22.Run outside and talk
A simple set of earbuds with a built-in microphone will allow you to exercise with your partner. Setting a time goal for your run is a good way to make sure you have some communication and bonding time while you run. Near the end, you can encourage each other and give updates on how long it will take. When you are separated from your partner, there isn’t much you can do to get outside. If you don’t run, walk with your partner.
23.Hold a fitness competition
Fitocracy.com makes working out feel like a real-life video game, with the ability to easily track every exercise you complete and give you an appropriate number of points per exercise, it makes working out feel like a real-life video game. You gain levels each time you earn a certain number of points and complete challenges, so it is very easy to compete with your partner, even though the site has a special challenge feature. I love this site and recommend it to everyone. If you don’t want to use it, you can simply challenge each other to exercise more without using the site, set an end date and determine the winning criteria, like most sit-ups in two minutes, most improved mile time, etc.
24.Meld your faces together online
You can see what you would look like if you uploaded images of your face and that of another person to a few sites. The point is to see what a child will look like, but it is just for fun.
25.Have double date nights on Google Hangouts
If you don’t have any long-distance couple friends, you can get two of your in-person couple friends to videochat with you and your partner. If you want to form your double-date plan, take any of the ideas from this list: watch a movie, have a competition, or play a hysterical multi-player game like The Desperate Housewives.
26.Write a story together
One sentence at a time is how to make a short story with your partner. When he has time, he will email you back with your first and second sentences. One of the couples I spoke to when writing this book loves this method of story-making, but I prefer National Novel Writing Month, which occurs every November. You will have access to one of the most amazing and supportive communities on the internet if you write 50,000 words in the month. It can be rewarding to write a novel that is in your head.
27.Play six degrees of separation
Another easy game to play is on the phone. Pick an actor and work together to watch no more than six movies. We have connected Tom Hanks and Robert De Niro by three degrees of separation because they both starred in Cast Away, Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal starred in When Harry met Sally and Robert De Niro starred in Analyze This.
28.Learn a language
If you are both sitting at the computer at a loss for new conversation topics, you should open a language learning program and go through it together. There are a lot of free computer programs out there, but you can also use your phone or mp3 player for that. Even if you can’t practice at the same time as your partner, you can still apply what you’ve learned in real conversations.
29.Draw each other
How much you enjoy drawing your partner depends on your artistic skills. Take turns posing in front of a camera. If you don’t know how to draw a realistic portrait, you’ll end up with a goofy looking version of yourself, and she’ll draw a big, ugly version of you. You can have fun with each other. You can get good with practice.
30.Play photo freeze tag
At any time of the day, either of you can text the word “freeze” to the other if you so choose. The receiver has to take a picture of himself doing whatever he is doing and send it to his partner. Try to catch each other in funny situations, or just enjoy seeing what your partner is up to.
Normally these hunts are done by a group of people who split into smaller groups and meet up at the end to compare results, but the meet-up here is virtual. There are a few people who want to participate. Determine how many points each item will be worth by coming up with a list of things you need to find and take pictures of. At the end of the allotted time, join a session with all of the groups in order to see which team is the winner. If you have a lot of friends in the same time zone, this could be a good thing.
If you want to know how long you can go without eating dessert, how many times the main character’s first name will be used in an episode of your favorite TV, place some stakes on your daily life. Money might not be a fun stake in your relationship, but massages, dinners, risqué rewards, and other personal goodies can be.
Paint-and-wine nights have been popular recently. It is possible to transfer the idea to a date. You and your partner will need some supplies for painting. You and your partner can see each other’s work when you set up your canvases facing your webcam. If you pick your own image and don’t take yourself too seriously, a painting date can be a lot funnier than you think.
34.Play “Would you rather?”
This is a simple game that doesn’t require any setup. Take turns thinking of questions and answering them. If your partner would rather be stuck on an island with his least favorite relative for a year or lose the ability to taste sweet things, how else would you know?
35.Research your family histories
If you are married to your partner or plan to have children together, this activity is even more important. After you have gathered as much information as you can from your parents and grandparents, you can share it with your partner and figure out when and where your ancestors were born, where they lived, and what their lives were like. The hobby can be addictive. You will have to pay a subscription fee to start at Ancestry.com. A joint family tree can be created if you gather enough information.
36.Grow plants from seeds
Like owning a pet, owning a plant is low-commitment. When you move in together, you might want to plant an olive, fig, or lemon tree to grow outside. You can grow a variety of tropical fruit seeds at home, including dragon fruit, cherimoya, and passion fruit. You can plant seeds at the same time if you order a packet of seeds. As they grow, compare their progress. It is a simple and sweet way to bond with your partner.
37.Play television-based games
When you watch your favorite show with someone, make it more active. Many popular shows now have drinking games, but it is easy to make your own. A funny example would be taping a paper mustache to the center of your screen and drinking whenever it lines up on a character’s face. If you don’t drink, you can play exercise games like jumping jacks, calf raises, and wall squatting in place of drinking.
38.Choose each other’s dinners
Every now and then try to switch it up, because you can have a regular dinner date anytime. You should find a similar restaurant in your area that serves delivery, ideally in a style that you don’t eat often. Taking your partner’s tastes into account, secretly choose items from his restaurant and place his order for him at the same time. When you get two surprise meals, sit and talk while you eat or watch a movie. You can eat with chopsticks or with your wrong hand.
Help out people who are far away.
You two know how hard it is to be separated, so you need to do something special for someone else who is separated from his or her loved ones. A care package is a good way to go about this. One of you will have to mail your supplies to the other if you want them all in one package. Start something new on one of the long distance relationship forums and offer to swap care packages with someone else. Each couple could swap date night packages for use during their visit.
40.Invent an activity and share it
Many people in long distance relationships can’t think of anything new to do. For the good of all the distance couples out there, create a pen and paper game or a phone game with your partner and share it with the world. If I think other people would enjoy it, I will add it to the list with your name attached.